Have you ever wanted to do something but when you found out what it would take you thought, “this is too hard’? Well unfortunately I see it more often than not with the many people I speak with daily. As humans we don’t like to be uncomfortable, we don’t like to do things that will cause pain, and most importantly we don’t like to change. Change hurts!
This Saturday I was pleasantly surprised and inspired by 2 people in particular. The first was my amazing assistant and cousin Mel, the other was Amber one of our VIP Miami Fit Body Boot Camp members and now good friend.
I finished running at 7AM and both of them were waiting for me to start their run. Today they had their first 7 miler but I couldn’t go with them because I had to go to work. After I explained where they needed to go they both took off without hesitation. I was hoping it was going to go well but I wasn’t sure because both had been recovering from the flu and stomach virus. I went to work, our first Saturday boot camp training session, and people kept coming in…29 in all! And 2 of the 29 people were Mel and Amber. They finished their 7 miler and came back in time to do the boot camp!
Everyone did amazing at the boot camp but I was really pumped up about Mel and Amber. They ran 7 miles for the first time ever, then came back and totally rocked it at the boot camp. They were pushing the other members to keep going as if they were fresh. Here are the life lessons I learned after being inspired with Mel and Amber’s performance that will help guarantee you achieve your dreams.
1. Get a GPS: In order for the GPS to get you were you want to go you must let it know where you want to go. So the first thing you need is to know what your goal or dreams are. The more specific the more precise you can be about preparing and the quicker you will get to your goal. The journey is definitely more fun than the destination but you need to have the right people with you and you must know your destination.
2. Chicken fighting: If you have ever participated in the age old game of chicken fighting you know you need a partner. One of you is the base and the other is fighter. This is really important when trying to achieve your goals. So find a friend that has similar goals and take the journey together. Hold each other accountable, support each other, motivate each other, and cheer each other.
3. Slap yourself in the face: This is not a typo, go ahead do it… what do you feel? The point is WAKE UP, in today’s society most people live in a comatose state. They do the same things day in and day out. They have very little excitement (especially at work) and it trickles to all levels throughout their life. Change is difficult but so worth it. When you challenge yourself and surpass all the obstacles like people trying to hold you back or getting sick or laziness you come out a stronger person. That forms momentum that can take you beyond your self imposed limitations.
4. Get Mr. Miyagi: All of the most successful people have mentors or coaches. In order to be successful find your “Mr. Miyagi” (Karate Kid, just in case) and have him mentor you. You need that 3rd party to objectively help you see more opportunities and possible pitfalls. A coach has knowledge in the area, has been through it, studies it, lives it. If you haven’t found one this could be the missing ingredient to your success.
5. Have fun: If you don’t have fun you won’t stick with it. Enough said…really find a way to make it whether by surrounding yourself with other like minded people or an environment that makes it fun. I had a boot camp member tell me “Your workouts are intense but fun and I feel I get so much more than when I just going to the gym that is so boring.” So find a way or place to make achieving your goals more fun.
I feel privileged to be able to share this story of another one of our boot camp members with you. I have been working with Tony for a few years and he has really made a 360 degree turn. He shared a post he wrote on his Ayumma blog that I want to share with you:
Tis the season!! No, not that season, it’s the start training for the Miami Marathon and/or the Disney Marathon season. Now, if you knew me or have seen me, you know that I’m definitely not gunning for a top ten finish, but the feeling you get after finishing, truly is priceless!!
I have only completed one half in my life and that was in 2007. Since then, I have been plagued by injury and/or circumstance that have prevented me from competing. This year I have vowed to see it thru, even planning to try to do a half marathon in the fall if I get enough mileage in.
Now why, you ask, would I be writing about this?? You usually write about marketing or business and I don’t see the connection. Well, my experiences the past few weeks have made me think about what it takes to be successful and I couldn’t see a better correlation than running a marathon.
As we launched our first of many exciting products, we lined up some sales people in order to create some local buzz and establish a model that would work large scale. One of the salespeople would only complain that the people didn’t want to work and that if they felt that it was more work, price didn’t matter, they won’t do it. This person would get frustrated because when he called and they didn’t respond immediately, or when they didn’t respond to a follow-up call, then the product didn’t generate “sizzle”. Now, I know that in our space, there are numerous companies with enough “sizzle” that they are feeding themselves and then some. So what was the difference?? Were the people in our local market just lazier??
I know that, despite our low cost basis, we were offering a generous commission and recurring compensation plan with as flexible hours as you could want for our sales people. So why was someone, with years selling into our customer base, not getting past the front door?? I also knew that my wife, if she had any training, would have closed about 20 customers in the same time frame despite talking to people when she had kids in tow. So what was going on??
To complete a marathon, or half marathon, it all comes down to effort. Not just the effort during the race but the effort you put in to your preparation up to the race. Both physical and mental preparation play a big role in your ultimate success. With the marathon, you set a time objective you hope to achieve and you train to get that objective. The work isn’t the day of the race it is all of the hours you put in leading up to the race. The sacrifices you made, the injuries and setbacks you overcame. That’s what makes the ultimate success so sweet. Not the feeling you get from completing the 13.1 or 26.2 miles, it’s the hundreds of miles and all of the hours spent in the months leading up to the race that allowed you to do what you did on the day of the race.[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIw4EN_TzI8&playnext=1&videos=qnsMiStdU_Q&feature=grec_index[/youtube]
If you are a small business, the race could be the day somebody buys you out, the day your kids take over the business, or even the day that it supports your family without the stress of how are you going to pay your bills. If you are a salesman, your “race” could be closing the “big” deal, or the day that you are generating enough income that you don’t need to worry about supporting your family. Either way, it requires your putting the time and the effort to get the job done. Overcoming setbacks and savoring the journey. There is no easy way to do it. Luck happens once; success is luck that happens again and again over a period of time!! In order to succeed you need to put in the effort, identify the obstacles and learn to overcome them. You need to anticipate the objections and be able to answer them quickly and intelligently. You need to work smarter, use what tools are available and see how to get to the finish line. Sometimes the steps are harder, but they are still steps.
So yes, I am planning to run a half and a full marathon in the next year. Why, for the challenge. To know that once I achieve the goal it is all because of the effort I put in, the extra work that I did, the obstacles I overcame. I do it because nothing replaces the feeling that you get when you cross the finish line knowing that all the hard work I put in allowed me to accomplish something that nobody believed I could when I started out. I also do it because nothing beats crossing the finish line and the first thing your then 9 year old daughter asks you, when you are totally destroyed, calf cramping because the air bubble in your shoe had burst (flat tire anyone???), have a side stitch like you’ve never felt before because in mile 6 you had to avoid someone who stopped to take a picture, making you pull a rib muscle, and you look pale and dehydrated, when she sees you is, “Daddy, can I do it with you next year??” That’s why I do it, because the rewards for hard work far exceed the struggles to get there.
Oh yeah, my daughter, she’s too young to do the marathon, but now, as a 12 year old, competed in the AAU Nationals Track and Field competition in Chicago this summer and is considered one of the top middle school cross country runners in her district. Success comes in all types of packages.
I hope you have enjoyed and gotten something out of Tony’s realization. Leave a comment for Tony. Congratulate him.
So my son, Mandy is taking swim lessons. This is a full immersion course where in 5 continuous days they are able to take him from a sinking rock to a survivor (pardon the analogies but you get the picture). So I was thinking that often time we extend and drag out many things in our life because we don’t commit and focus 100%.
Now I know what you must be thinking…
I am too busy, my kids have a million activities…(See video below to continue the list excuses)[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=myDYE49KPlQ&feature=player_embedded[/youtube]
Excuses are everywhere it is up to you to take action and achieve what you want (just like Michele did).
1. Post-It Notes: The night before write on 1 post it note the top 3 things that must be done in order for you day to be productive. If you are a business owner that may be the top 3 things that are going to generate income. If you are a stay at home mom it may be the top 3 things that will leave you satisfied once you are done (I know for my wife it’s having the kitchen clean -a must!).
2. Count Down Timer: Give yourself a deadline. By using a countdown timer you will waste less time because you know you will have only 20 minutes to complete you task (i.e. cleaning the kitchen, sending emails, surfing the net). Think full immersion in chunks.
3. Schedule Time: Block off time to do these important task and don’t allow anything to get in the way of that when at all possible. (Remember you can always come up with an excuse but if you want something bad enough nothing will get in you way.)
4. Phone Off: Probably responsible for lots of wasted time. When doing your tasks put the phone on silent and in another room if possible until you are done. I can guarantee most things are not that important that it can’t wait another half an hour when you are done.
5. Do, Don’t Think: The purpose of this phrase is so you take action. Often time we end up paralyzed by all the details or unknowns. Take action first and get the momentum then correct as you go. As the saying goes, “actions speak louder than words.”
As for Mandy and his great swim instructor Tall Tom he has done an amazing job. I love this immersion stuff. I feel so much more comfortable having him in the pool now. Oh and Tall Tom says he can hold his breath for a long time. That must mean he must have a good VO2 max.
Please leave your comments and let me know what your thoughts are.
PS – Anyone looking for a great swim instructor for you kids, call Tall Tom 772-618-3599. Tell him you are good friends with me. Happy Full Immersion 😉
Yes all diets work and all diets do fail. What the heck does that mean? Let’s break it down. This is what I mean, if you do any diet on the market (which by the way there are new ones coming out everyday) you will lose weight. Some are better than others and some are healthier than others. I am sure most of you have tried one or more diets in your life and have lost some weight. Then what happens? Well usually you will stop seeing results so you get frustrated or it becomes too boring or too hard to follow the diet with your lifestyle. So really what is the problem?
Mindset. Mindset is everything. Here is the reality, most people fail not because they are doing the wrong diet or wrong exercises but because they start with wrong mindset. If you have a short term mindset you will have short term results but if you have what I call a “Lifestyle Mindset” you will set yourself up for success.
A “Lifestyle Mindset” has you focus on the big picture. Your life is uniquely yours and no one else will have the same obstacles and time constraints that you have. So the important thing is saying, “Can I do this for the rest of my life?” A diet is not one of them. A diet has a start and an end. Below I have addressed 3 steps to success with your health and fitness goals.
3 Steps to Success
1. Know what you want. [As the saying goes if you don’t know where you are going you won’t know when you are there.]
2. Give yourself the opportunity to succeed. [Celebrate the little things and don’t worry if you are not perfect at first. Think of a baby, you don’t wait until he is doing something perfect before you give him praise. If he is even close you get all excited. Do the same for yourself; be flexible.]
3. Surround yourself with a good support crew that knows what you want and will help you and hold you accountable. [This is so important, we all need and want to be praised as well as pushed to be better. This may be your family (lucky you) but remember chose your peer group and love your family.]
I hope this helps you get started on your path to success. I know many of you struggle with nutrition so I have attached my Habits for Nutritional Success (CLICK HERE).
Please leave you comments and questions below. I want your feedback. Thanks.