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Motivation Monday – Don’t be afraid to fail

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Thomas Edison created the light bulb. He made 10,000 different lightbulbs before he found the one that worked. When asked about his failures he stated, “I didn’t fail, I just found 10,000 ways not to make a light bulb.”

Perspective.

What is your perspective and how will you “fail” today?

Cheers,

Armando

Beating Your Inner Demons!

The other day I posted a workout on Facebook that I struggled with. It was simple, 300 push-ups and 300 Jumping Jacks. After about 100 push-ups I wanted to give up.

I thought…

Who is going to know?

Is it really that important to finish?

Anyways that same night I got a message from a friend on Facebook. It perfectly illustrated how to think and overcome these inner demons or funks that we are all susceptible to.

Hey man, your post touched on something my wife and I talked about today. I’ve been in a funk the past week and, no surprise, my weight loss suffered because of it. That only served to enhance my funk. Today I discussed it with my wife, saying, “I feel like I’m a slave to these funks. They always happen, no matter how positive I feel going into battle with my weight. And they pretty much always derail me.” 

We realized that we keep waiting for this magic spell to be cast where we stay motivated every day and we’re able to put in the work we need to in order to reach our goals. That just isn’t true. Funks are part of the process and we have to accept them.

There will be days, no matter how far we’ve gone, that we’ll wake up not wanting to do a damn thing and wanting to eat everything in sight. Accept that these days are part of the process, trust the process and move on. Push through the funks and you’ll eventually make it through to the other side. And you’ll most likely be even more motivates to continue because you’ve jumped over such a huge personal hurdle.

We’re implementing this mindset, getting our workouts in, watching what we eat and it’s already gone a long way to help with the funk because we’re not afraid of it. We just accept that it’ll happen, that it’ll most likely happen again and that we just need to keep moving forward.

So what was the difference between 100 and 300 push-ups for me?

Mentally when I overcame my minds weakness and achieved my goal I felt so empowered and unstoppable. That made all the difference in the world for my confidence and the way I look at life. If life puts up a wall in front of me, perhaps I can find a way around it but how about just kicking it down. It doesn’t have to be pretty “Just Do It.”

How Do You Battle Your Inner Demons? Leave a Comment Below…

Cheers,

AC

How to have an amazing marriage

Recently I was the best man at my brother’s wedding. I had never been a best man before and this being such an amazing honor and a very important day I didn’t want to screw it up. As you know the best man gives the final toast to the bride and groom and being somewhat of a perfectionist I didn’t want to be remembered as that guy that gave a horrible speech at his brother’s wedding.

Knowing this, I like most, work more efficiently under pressure and deadline. So as you can imagine after his wedding on my way to the reception I asked my wife to drive and I started writing (talk about a deadline). What I wanted to do was really make it meaningful so I sprinkled a few jokes, told a few stories, but ended with this. The top 3 things for a successful marriage and that is what I want to share with you today.

Top 3 Things For A Successful Marriage

1.) Don’t listen to the way most people describe marriage.

I have a huge problem when people refer to marriage as a prison sentence, the ball and chain, end of your life…etc. I think marriage is one of the most amazing things, ever! Just like anything in life you get what you put into it. If you don’t put in much don’t expect much. That being said marriage is a balance. If both are not committed to making it the best thing ever then it won’t be. Mindset is crucial and for my brother and his beautiful wife I wanted to make sure they understood that. Marriage is not easy but the greatest investment you can make.

 

2.) Communication is an absolute must.

Here is a biggie. First of all how do you know that this is the right person for you? How do you know what to say or do? How do you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling? Communication, communication, communication!

{Pre-Marriage} You don’t need to live with people to know about them. You need to talk, ask questions, and know what you are looking for. If you don’t know what you want how do you when you found it.

{Marriage} Knowing your spouse is of utmost importance. If you are not speaking on a daily basis focused on each other without other distractions (i.e. kids, tv, computer, phone…) you are going to miss something. If you miss something one day it isn’t a big deal but these are all habits you are creating and 1 day turns into 2, 2 into 3… until you are 10 years later and you have no idea who your spouse is.

 

3.) Ask if this is a listening problem or a fixing problem.

[*NOTE: this one is for the guys] Here is a phenomenon that to men that will not make sense but you must accept (women you know what I am talking about). When a women has a problem, SHUT-UP and LISTEN. Don’t do anything else, if you do I guarantee you will screw it up. You see it is in our DNA as men to fix things and when your wife has a problem, you proudly polish your shining armor, get on your white horse, and ride to the rescue to save your damsel in distress.

CAUTION this exactly what you don’t want to do!

When a women is vocalizing a problem usually they are trying to vent. At that moment they don’t want your help, just your ears. Women will understand this men want to go and start fixing even before she is done explaining. Again if you try and understand this, DON’T,  just accept it. Fortunately my wife and I came up with an agreement (Seriously). When she starts telling me a problem, I ask, “Is this a listening problem or a fixing problem?”

This one question has made such a difference in the way we communicate and understand each other.

I know these steps will help your marriage as it has ours and other couples we know. Below I have a bonus.

BONUS

Say I love you in the way your spouse needs to hear it. (Refer to the The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts)

This is very important. The book is amazing and I look forward to doing a book review on it but here is the main point of the book. There are 5 love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch). Often we express our love to our spouse using our love language. If your spouses love language is different than yours she will not receive it as you intended it.

Key: Express your love using your spouses love language not your own. (It goes more in-depth in the book).

 

Let me know what you think. Has this helped in your marriage?

Do you have any advise for the brand new couple? Share your thoughts on the comments section.

 

 

One Day At A Time

I was reading my morning meditation and it talked about “One day at a time.” The slogan for the alcoholics fighting through their addiction.

It means don’t think about being sober forever, don’t think about one year away, don’t think about one week down the road just focus on today. Focus on being sober for today, one day at a time.

I felt it was such a great approach to succeeding in any area in our life.

“Being successful does not happen in one day but a compilation of consistent successful days to get us there.”

I often get asked about weight loss. Most people want to lose 10-30 lbs. The problem is that they think it happens over night. As the saying goes, “What comes fast, leaves fast.”

Here is what typically happens, someone decides they want to lose 25 lbs. They start exercising hard make a few changes on their food and they start losing some weight maybe 3 lbs in the first week. Maybe a few pounds the following week and then they plateau. Now they get a little stressed, they figure they have to work harder and nothing happens. Now they are really frustrated and they start pigging out on food and before you know it they are back where they started.

Take this approach instead…

Losing weight can seem pretty daunting at times. So lets make a mental shift and instead of expecting insane amounts of weight to come off by tomorrow lets focus on losing a 1/2 lbs per week. 1/2 lbs is not very much but as stated above “Being successful does not happen in one day but a compilation of consistent successful days to get us there.” If we look at one year of losing 1/2 lbs per week, you end up losing 26 lbs with little to no effort!

Something to consider.

Ask yourself…
– How important is this goal?
– Why is this goal so important?
– How will I feel when I hit this goal?
– How will I feel if don’t hit this goal?

By asking yourself these questions above you will tap into the key components that will help you execute these goals.

Have an amazing day.

Cheers,
AC

5 Lessons Towards Achieving Your Dreams

Have you ever wanted to do something but when you found out what it would take you thought, “this is too hard’? Well unfortunately I see it more often than not with the many people I speak with daily. As humans we don’t like to be uncomfortable, we don’t like to do things that will cause pain, and most importantly we don’t like to change. Change hurts!

This Saturday I was pleasantly surprised and inspired by 2 people in particular. The first was my amazing assistant and cousin Mel, the other was Amber one of our VIP Miami Fit Body Boot Camp members and now good friend.

What did they do?

I finished running at 7AM and both of them were waiting for me to start their run. Today they had their first 7 miler but I couldn’t go with them because I had to go to work. After I explained where they needed to go they both took off without hesitation. I was hoping it was going to go well but I wasn’t sure because both had been recovering from the flu and stomach virus. I went to work, our first Saturday boot camp training session, and people kept coming in…29 in all! And 2 of the 29 people were Mel and Amber. They finished their 7 miler and came back in time to do the boot camp!

Everyone did amazing at the boot camp but I was really pumped up about Mel and Amber. They ran 7 miles for the first time ever, then came back and totally rocked it at the boot camp. They were pushing the other members to keep going as if they were fresh. Here are the life lessons I learned after being inspired with Mel and Amber’s performance that will help guarantee you achieve your dreams.

5 Lessons Towards Achieving Your Dreams:

1. Get a GPS: In order for the GPS to get you were you want to go you must let it know where you want to go. So the first thing you need is to know what your goal or dreams are. The more specific the more precise you can be about preparing and the quicker you will get to your goal. The journey is definitely more fun than the destination but you need to have the right people with you and you must know your destination.

2. Chicken fighting: If you have ever participated in the age old game of chicken fighting you know you need a partner. One of you is the base and the other is fighter. This is really important when trying to achieve your goals. So find a friend that has similar goals and take the journey together. Hold each other accountable, support each other, motivate each other, and cheer each other.

3. Slap yourself in the face: This is not a typo, go ahead do it… what do you feel? The point is WAKE UP, in today’s society most people live in a comatose state. They do the same things day in and day out. They have very little excitement (especially at work) and it trickles to all levels throughout their life. Change is difficult but so worth it. When you challenge yourself and surpass all the obstacles like people trying to hold you back or getting sick or laziness you come out a stronger person. That forms momentum that can take you beyond your self imposed limitations.

4. Get Mr. Miyagi: All of the most successful people have mentors or coaches. In order to be successful find your “Mr. Miyagi” (Karate Kid, just in case) and have him mentor you. You need that 3rd party to objectively help you see more opportunities and possible pitfalls. A coach has knowledge in the area, has been through it, studies it, lives it. If you haven’t found one this could be the missing ingredient to your success.

5. Have fun: If you don’t have fun you won’t stick with it. Enough said…really find a way to make it whether by surrounding yourself with other like minded people or an environment that makes it fun. I had a boot camp member tell me “Your workouts are intense but fun and I feel I get so much more than when I just going to the gym that is so boring.” So find a way or place to make achieving your goals more fun.

Lose those unwated pounds

Why Drowning Sucks!

So my son, Mandy is taking swim lessons. This is a full immersion course where in 5 continuous days they are able to take him from a sinking rock to a survivor (pardon the analogies but you get the picture). So I was thinking that often time we extend and drag out many things in our life because we don’t commit and focus 100%.

Now I know what you must be thinking…

I am too busy, my kids have a million activities…(See video below to continue the list excuses)

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Excuses are everywhere it is up to you to take action and achieve what you want (just like Michele did).

Top 5 Ways To Be More Productive And Have Fewer Excuses

1. Post-It Notes: The night before write on 1 post it note the top 3 things that must be done in order for you day to be productive. If you are a business owner that may be the top 3 things that are going to generate income. If you are a stay at home mom it may be the top 3 things that will leave you satisfied once you are done (I know for my wife it’s having the kitchen clean -a must!).

2. Count Down Timer: Give yourself a deadline. By using a countdown timer you will waste less time because you know you will have only 20 minutes to complete you task (i.e. cleaning the kitchen, sending emails, surfing the net). Think full immersion in chunks.

3. Schedule Time: Block off time to do these important task and don’t allow anything to get in the way of that when at all possible. (Remember you can always come up with an excuse but if you want something bad enough nothing will get in you way.)

4. Phone Off: Probably responsible for lots of wasted time. When doing your tasks put the phone on silent and in another room if possible until you are done. I can guarantee most things are not that important that it can’t wait another half an hour when you are done.

5. Do, Don’t Think: The purpose of this phrase is so you take action. Often time we end up paralyzed by all the details or unknowns. Take action first and get the momentum then correct as you go. As the saying goes, “actions speak louder than words.”

As for Mandy and his great swim instructor Tall Tom he has done an amazing job. I love this immersion stuff. I feel so much more comfortable having him in the pool now. Oh and Tall Tom says he can hold his breath for a long time. That must mean he must have a good VO2 max.

Please leave your comments and let me know what your thoughts are.

Cheers,

Armando

PS – Anyone looking for a great swim instructor for you kids, call Tall Tom 772-618-3599. Tell him you are good friends with me. Happy Full Immersion 😉