The other day I was speaking with a friend of mine talking about kids. She told me something her dad use to tell her about raising kids that was brilliant.
Her dad would say, “I’m not raising MY child, I am raising a future citizen.”
Wow, Think about that for moment… let that marinate in your mind and see what happens.
I believe this is such a profound statement and believe it is an amazing responsibility we parents face.
With kids that are growing up with little respect for others or themselves, this begs the question, what kind of citizen will we have in the future?
I hear about this daily from my teacher friends and family. Kids doing what they want and not having any manners. What happen to saying “please” and “thank you”? What happen to having a man be a real man and open the door for a woman? Was it equal rights? I think not.
This goes way back and deeper than equal rights. This goes down to family. It goes down to parents actually parenting and having high standards that they demand their kids to follow. Unfortunately with the rates of divorce, single parents households, and distant parent (meaning parents are there they just don’t communicate with their children) households skyrocketing I believe many parents have neglected their most important job (either by choice or necessity). None of us are perfect but realize if you don’t have high standards that you teach your children, someone or something (TV, internet…) will.
This subject is something that could be expanded on but I prefer to share with you the 7 simple truth that all us parents should teach our kids to raise responsible, generous, caring, and successful citizens.
1. The Golden Rule – Do unto others as you want them to do to you.
– I think this is self explanatory. None of us like to be treated like dirt but all of us like to be listened to and respected. When interacting with people think about that.
2. Eat together and share together at least once daily.
– Lack of communication is the leading cause of divorce and dysfunctional families. Eating and sharing together daily allows for a scheduled time to do this. (Note: just by doing this doesn’t mean everything will be perfect but it will start the conversation of communication)
3. “It is in giving that we truly receive.”
– I couldn’t have said it any better.
4. Actions speak louder than words.
– Do as I say not as I do, doesn’t work. Your children will learn more by the things you repeatedly do than by the things you say.
5. Say, “I love you.”
– Love is the one thing we crave most.
6. You don’t have to agree with your elders but you must respect them.
– Your elders are not always right but showing respect allows for clearer communication. Respect is a foundational character trait of greatness.
7. Say “please”, “thank you”.
– Common courtesy.
Let’s raise amazing citizens and have awesome children at the same time.
Leave your comments below I want to hear whether you disagree or agree with me and why.