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Remember Us

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Remember the fallen soldiers, remember their family, and enjoy the freedom they helped create for you.

R.I.P. – Paul Michael Felsberg: You were a true friend, a leader, a hero, and I miss you greatly. Christmas Eve is not the same without you (A lot more left overs, lol). I love you man.

If you know a fallen hero please honor them here and letting others know what they did for you and our country. Leave their legacy below in the comments section.

Cheers,

AC

 

Monday Motivation-The Power of Words

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I don’t really think I need to say anything but Wow! How important is it to truly comprehend the power of words. You can literally change the world. Embrace the power of words and use it to create that world you have always dreamed of today.
Cheers,
AC

Mountains, Midgets, and Manners

This post should have been called “Things, Not What They Seem” but I didn’t think it sounded as cool. I am sure that you are wondering what the 3 M’s have to do with each other. Actually there is a funny story to explain it. We will call it…

The Western Exploration Adventures

After college my good friend Johann and I decided to go run the national parks throughout the US. We would be living out of the car and camping for 3 months.

We had a few rules:

1. No shaving or cutting our hair

2. We must run at least 1x day

3. Have fun

It truly was a life changing experience. This story takes place about 2 months into our trip in the Prairie Creek Campground in the Redwood National Forest in California. We had been running everyday, usually 2x’s a day. Needless to say were in decent shape.

I remember having a great 10 mile run in the morning running through the trails surrounded by majestic mountains, towering trees, and blue skies. This was such a humbling experience running through such grander that makes you feel so miniscule (i.e. midget;-). There is something about running through nature and pushing your body to an uncomfortable state that really heightens your awareness of what it means to be truly alive.

After our run we made our food and relaxed for the day hiking, reading, writing and talking to the other people in the campground. By 5PM it was time for our second run an easy 3 mile run. We ran once again through the trails soaking it all in. When we returned we went and showered in the creek. There we saw a few elk drinking water by creek. By the time we finished bathing and setting up camp we notice the campground was crawling with elk. They were just congregating and looked as if they were just socializing.

By 9:00 PM we decided to call it a night and went to bed. This is when things got weird. No, not because to grown men were sleeping in a tent together but because we were awaken by a flute, tiru-li-lu-li, tiru-li-lu-li. A sweet melody that soared through the air, filled my eardrums like water in a bucket. At first it was lovely and we thought wow some kid is practicing his flute. But by midnight we were ready to strangle that kid…We kept saying to each other, what parent would let their kid play an instrument so late at night? By midnight that melody was now like nails scratching a chalkboard, piercing through my eardrums. Don’t these people have any manners? Some of us are trying to sleep.

Eventually we fell asleep and at 7AM we were up for our morning run. Upon returning we see the park ranger and decided to be report the “Midnight Flutist”. After we explained our concern she could no longer hold back her laughter. Right there in front of us she bent over laughing as if someone punched her in the stomach (which crossed my mind when she laughed). We didn’t understand what was so funny until…

She explained that the infamous antagonist the “Midnight Flutist” was in fact our visiting elk. You see it was September (other wise known as mating season for elk). That sweet melody was their mating call destined to serenade their soon to be partner.

I hope you enjoyed one of the many stories and experiences Johann and I had during our Western Exploration Adventure.

What did you think about the “Midnight Flutist”? Leave a comment below.

Cheers,

AC

PS – So what was today’s message for living out your Soul Purpose

1. Explore and see this world. This life changing trip really changed my perspective of people and the world.

2. You can only share with others not by yourself. Don’t be an island embrace and cultivate life enhancing relationships.

3. Don’t jump to conclusions about “Midnight Flutist” (It could be a bunch of elk trying to get their groove on).

4. Fitness and health is a big part vitality

5. Find your passion (One of mine is running) and explore how you can immerse yourself in it.

PPS – Once again leave a comment below and let me know what you think about the “Midnight Flutist”.

 

 

Is our future doomed?

The other day I was speaking with a friend of mine talking about kids. She told me something her dad use to tell her about raising kids that was brilliant.

Her dad would say, “I’m not raising MY child, I am raising a future citizen.”

Wow, Think about that for moment… let that marinate in your mind and see what happens.

I believe this is such a profound statement and believe it is an amazing responsibility we parents face.

With kids that are growing up with little respect for others or themselves, this begs the question, what kind of citizen will we have in the future?

I hear about this daily from my teacher friends and family. Kids doing what they want and not having any manners. What happen to saying “please” and “thank you”? What happen to having a man be a real man and open the door for a woman? Was it equal rights? I think not.

 

This goes way back and deeper than equal rights. This goes down to family. It goes down to parents actually parenting and having high standards that they demand their kids to follow. Unfortunately with the rates of divorce, single parents households, and distant parent (meaning parents are there they just don’t communicate with their children) households skyrocketing I believe many parents have neglected their most important job (either by choice or necessity). None of us are perfect but realize if you don’t have high standards that you teach your children, someone or something (TV, internet…) will.

This subject is something that could be expanded on but I prefer to share with you the 7 simple truth that all us parents should teach our kids to raise responsible, generous, caring, and successful citizens.

7 Truth To Teach Our Children

1. The Golden Rule – Do unto others as you want them to do to you.

– I think this is self explanatory. None of us like to be treated like dirt but all of us like to be listened to and respected. When interacting with people think about that.

2. Eat together and share together at least once daily.

– Lack of communication is the leading cause of divorce and dysfunctional families. Eating and sharing together daily allows for a scheduled time to do this. (Note: just by doing this doesn’t mean everything will be perfect but it will start the conversation of communication)

3. “It is in giving that we truly receive.”

– I couldn’t have said it any better.

4. Actions speak louder than words.

– Do as I say not as I do, doesn’t work. Your children will learn more by the things you repeatedly do than by the things you say.

5. Say, “I love you.”

– Love is the one thing we crave most.

6. You don’t have to agree with your elders but you must respect them.

– Your elders are not always right but showing respect allows for clearer communication. Respect is a foundational character trait of greatness.

7. Say “please”, “thank you”.

– Common courtesy.

 

Let’s raise amazing citizens and have awesome children at the same time.

Raising children tends to be a touchy subject but dealing with spoiled kids that are disrespectful and don’t care about themselves or their community is worse.

Leave your comments below I want to hear whether you disagree or agree with me and why.

Cheers,

AC

 

Motivation Monday – Don’t be afraid to fail

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Thomas Edison created the light bulb. He made 10,000 different lightbulbs before he found the one that worked. When asked about his failures he stated, “I didn’t fail, I just found 10,000 ways not to make a light bulb.”

Perspective.

What is your perspective and how will you “fail” today?

Cheers,

Armando

Beating Your Inner Demons!

The other day I posted a workout on Facebook that I struggled with. It was simple, 300 push-ups and 300 Jumping Jacks. After about 100 push-ups I wanted to give up.

I thought…

Who is going to know?

Is it really that important to finish?

Anyways that same night I got a message from a friend on Facebook. It perfectly illustrated how to think and overcome these inner demons or funks that we are all susceptible to.

Hey man, your post touched on something my wife and I talked about today. I’ve been in a funk the past week and, no surprise, my weight loss suffered because of it. That only served to enhance my funk. Today I discussed it with my wife, saying, “I feel like I’m a slave to these funks. They always happen, no matter how positive I feel going into battle with my weight. And they pretty much always derail me.” 

We realized that we keep waiting for this magic spell to be cast where we stay motivated every day and we’re able to put in the work we need to in order to reach our goals. That just isn’t true. Funks are part of the process and we have to accept them.

There will be days, no matter how far we’ve gone, that we’ll wake up not wanting to do a damn thing and wanting to eat everything in sight. Accept that these days are part of the process, trust the process and move on. Push through the funks and you’ll eventually make it through to the other side. And you’ll most likely be even more motivates to continue because you’ve jumped over such a huge personal hurdle.

We’re implementing this mindset, getting our workouts in, watching what we eat and it’s already gone a long way to help with the funk because we’re not afraid of it. We just accept that it’ll happen, that it’ll most likely happen again and that we just need to keep moving forward.

So what was the difference between 100 and 300 push-ups for me?

Mentally when I overcame my minds weakness and achieved my goal I felt so empowered and unstoppable. That made all the difference in the world for my confidence and the way I look at life. If life puts up a wall in front of me, perhaps I can find a way around it but how about just kicking it down. It doesn’t have to be pretty “Just Do It.”

How Do You Battle Your Inner Demons? Leave a Comment Below…

Cheers,

AC

How to have an amazing marriage

Recently I was the best man at my brother’s wedding. I had never been a best man before and this being such an amazing honor and a very important day I didn’t want to screw it up. As you know the best man gives the final toast to the bride and groom and being somewhat of a perfectionist I didn’t want to be remembered as that guy that gave a horrible speech at his brother’s wedding.

Knowing this, I like most, work more efficiently under pressure and deadline. So as you can imagine after his wedding on my way to the reception I asked my wife to drive and I started writing (talk about a deadline). What I wanted to do was really make it meaningful so I sprinkled a few jokes, told a few stories, but ended with this. The top 3 things for a successful marriage and that is what I want to share with you today.

Top 3 Things For A Successful Marriage

1.) Don’t listen to the way most people describe marriage.

I have a huge problem when people refer to marriage as a prison sentence, the ball and chain, end of your life…etc. I think marriage is one of the most amazing things, ever! Just like anything in life you get what you put into it. If you don’t put in much don’t expect much. That being said marriage is a balance. If both are not committed to making it the best thing ever then it won’t be. Mindset is crucial and for my brother and his beautiful wife I wanted to make sure they understood that. Marriage is not easy but the greatest investment you can make.

 

2.) Communication is an absolute must.

Here is a biggie. First of all how do you know that this is the right person for you? How do you know what to say or do? How do you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling? Communication, communication, communication!

{Pre-Marriage} You don’t need to live with people to know about them. You need to talk, ask questions, and know what you are looking for. If you don’t know what you want how do you when you found it.

{Marriage} Knowing your spouse is of utmost importance. If you are not speaking on a daily basis focused on each other without other distractions (i.e. kids, tv, computer, phone…) you are going to miss something. If you miss something one day it isn’t a big deal but these are all habits you are creating and 1 day turns into 2, 2 into 3… until you are 10 years later and you have no idea who your spouse is.

 

3.) Ask if this is a listening problem or a fixing problem.

[*NOTE: this one is for the guys] Here is a phenomenon that to men that will not make sense but you must accept (women you know what I am talking about). When a women has a problem, SHUT-UP and LISTEN. Don’t do anything else, if you do I guarantee you will screw it up. You see it is in our DNA as men to fix things and when your wife has a problem, you proudly polish your shining armor, get on your white horse, and ride to the rescue to save your damsel in distress.

CAUTION this exactly what you don’t want to do!

When a women is vocalizing a problem usually they are trying to vent. At that moment they don’t want your help, just your ears. Women will understand this men want to go and start fixing even before she is done explaining. Again if you try and understand this, DON’T,  just accept it. Fortunately my wife and I came up with an agreement (Seriously). When she starts telling me a problem, I ask, “Is this a listening problem or a fixing problem?”

This one question has made such a difference in the way we communicate and understand each other.

I know these steps will help your marriage as it has ours and other couples we know. Below I have a bonus.

BONUS

Say I love you in the way your spouse needs to hear it. (Refer to the The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts)

This is very important. The book is amazing and I look forward to doing a book review on it but here is the main point of the book. There are 5 love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch). Often we express our love to our spouse using our love language. If your spouses love language is different than yours she will not receive it as you intended it.

Key: Express your love using your spouses love language not your own. (It goes more in-depth in the book).

 

Let me know what you think. Has this helped in your marriage?

Do you have any advise for the brand new couple? Share your thoughts on the comments section.