This morning I read a thought by Kute Blackson. He said,
“Your story is just that, a story. You can re-write it at any time.“
Stories can be very powerful. In fact that is how we communicate our past, share our wisdom, teach our lessons, and create our identity. Some stories are great epics that uplift, inspire, and focus the protagonists strength. Unfortunately many people today believe a different story about themselves. Their story usually involves pointing out all the weaknesses of the protagonist. They are written in such a way that the protagonist is now the victim. The protagonist is faced with obstacles that he fails to overcome. The protagonist has no help and no way out of this dire circumstance.
I suggest to you that the choice is yours. You are the author of your story. If you don’t like your story, re-write it.
Going through many drafts is the mark of a masterpiece. Don’t look at the mistakes in your life, the obstacles in your life as failures but as drafts helping you write your masterpiece. Each draft gets you one step closer to your polishing, directing your epic story.
Here is a question I want you to answer:
What 3 ways can you re-write your story so you feel more empowered, more productive, and happier daily?[HINT:] Create the vision of what you want your personal, business, and spiritual life to look like. Once you do that, you will be able to write the epic story built on your strengths.
I’m writing a book on Thankfulness.
I want YOU to be in it.
If you are interested please read below and reply if you qualify.
For the past 6 months I have been experimenting with the idea and practice of thankfulness. I started saying out loud 50 things I was thankful for on my way to work or on a run. This soon became known as theDaily50.
What I found was when I was done I felt happier and ready to overcome anything that could and would happen in my day. I was more productive at work and I just enjoyed myself more. After months of experimenting on myself I want to test this on a larger scale so I created the Daily50 Project and I want you to be a part of it if you qualify.
I am looking for cool people to embark on a 21 day journey with me.
Most people can come up with 10-15 things they are thankful for pretty easily but the idea is to stretch yourself and get out of your comfort zone. To dig in and find appreciation and thankfulness in the simple things in life. If you do that for 21 days straight my experience says is your day will go better, make your relationships better, and make you more productive.
I applaud you for taking on this challenge and joining me in this new journey.
P.S. – If you qualify and really want to do this register here.
P.P.S. – To follow some thoughts on twitter search under #Daily50
The other day I had the privilege of being on a call with over 200 other fitness professionals listening to the one and only Dax Moy. If Marcus Aurelius was the philosopher king, then Dax Moy is the philosopher fitness Guru. A very deep guy yet simple to understand.
In the world of Gurus he’s one person I admire. The call was about being overwhelmed.
Here is what I understood from the call that can help you.
Overwhelm is the product of passion without clear direction and purpose.
Let me repeat that, “Overwhelm is the product of passion without clear direction and purpose.”
If you want the life that you truly deserve, you will get to it by eliminating not by adding things to your life.
We’ve been conditioned to think that we need more things in order to be happy. That could be further from the truth. Most of us really don’t know exactly what we want. As a result we just add more and more things into our lives hoping that if we add enough things perhaps we may get there.
Let’s break down each one briefly.
First, decide what would your ideal life look like. Write down in detail what a typical day for you might be. The more details the better. Here are some questions you may want to consider. “Where do you want to live?” “What do you want to do?” “How would you start and end each day?” “What does your house look like?” “Who would you spend your time with?” “What would you eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner?” “How would you spend your day?”
Once you have done that, reverse engineer what it would cost to live that life. Meaning do some research. Write down all the expenses of this lifestyle. Now you have a close approximation of what it would take to realize this ideal life. It is probably much less than you think. Even if it is not now you have something to shoot for.
Next, is not having a clear passion that lights up your life. This is your life force. I have met many people tell me they are not passionate about anything. Everyone has passions. The problem is most people suppress them because they were told that they needed to have a “safe job” or a “real job”. Think about hobbies or things you do or people you interact with that make you feel energized and excited before, during, and after.
After you find this, figure out ways to do this more often. If you need to quit your job… Do it. I know that may sound irresponsible but the truth is I believe it is irresponsible not to live your life to its full potential. I believe that we are put on this earth to contribute at the highest level. I believe that will only happen when we live congruent with our passions and strength.
Remember I said in the beginning that, “If you want the life that you truly deserve, you will get to it by eliminating not by adding things to your life.” Now that you have the first two knocked out it is time to start cleaning. Look at your daily activities and tasks. Which of these activities or tasks are not allowing your to do things you are passionate about. Which are draining your attention and energy away from being congruent? Some of these may be work related tasks. Ask yourself should you really be doing them? Can you delegate them? Can you hire someone to do them for you? By doing them what is it really costing you?
What you will find when you start cleaning out your life is you have more energy, have more time to do the things you want, and finally you will eliminate overwhelm.
I felt I needed to share this information with you because it is so powerful.
Here is the other thing. We live in a society where we have an overflow of information. Information can be overwhelming. The key is not having more information. It should be to acquire more knowledge that helps you get closer to your vision.
What is the difference between information and knowledge?
Knowledge is the application and internalization of information to aid you for your ultimate purpose. Said differently, apply what you learn or it does you no good.
So go on an information elimination diet.
Start applying what is useful and discard the rest.
I believe we all have the right and the ability to live amazing life. I want that for you but only you can make that happen.
– You must connect emotionally as to why you want to move forward.
– “If you’re doing something and it feels challenging, you’re on the right track”
– “Once you experience small victories, the confidence you gain will help you stay out of the comfort zone.”
– Put yourself in a position where you have no choice but to follow through and get out of your comfort zone.
I have found this to be true in my life. Every time I have pushed past my self imposed comfort limits a new world of possibilities and opportunities await. I want to make it clear. I have failed many times and will continue to fail but that doesn’t stop me from moving forward, to getting uncomfortable.
I want to hear what your experience has been. I know that sharing our stories we are able to realize our strength and our weaknesses but also by sharing you help others take that next step and know that it will be alright. They will get through it and it is worth it.
This is part 2 of Building A Better You, If you have yet to read part 1 (Click Here)
Shakespeare reminds us in Hamlet, “To thine own self be true.” This means you must know who you are and the second part is to live it daily in all you do. So lets make this practical. Answer this question below:
Who are you?
I know that may seem like a dumb question but give it a shot. When answering this questions start with the most basic of things such as age, gender and build from there. By identifying your authentic self you now can develop a road map. Ask yourself before doing anything, Is this congruent with being my authentic self? If the answer is NO, you just don’t do it. If the answer is YES, then ask yourself is this the right time to do it. If YES, then proceed, if NO, then let it pass.
I know this may seem like common sense but “common sense is not so common.”
If you haven’t answered the question “Who are you? do it now.
Now that you know who you are, let’s explore how to better yourself daily.
Remember consistency is going to be your strongest weapon. Think of when Michelangelo was chiseling away to create the famous sculpture of David. He didn’t give it one big whack and the sculpture was perfect. No he chiseled a little at a time, consistently over days, weeks, months until eventually the beauty of his work was revealed. Create your ultimate life by diligently chiseling out the imperfections, the excess fluff, until you reveal the masterpiece.
Go back to who you are and chisel your life daily and live congruently to that. Remember this is a work in progress. Love yourself.
If YES, read on, if NO, stop here.
If you are reading this, then I will assume you want to become the best version of you but before we go any further let me share with you the WHY.
Life is better
Life is easier
Life is fun
I am sure you want a life that is easier, better, and fun. I know I do. When you are truly congruent and share with the world who you truly are all this will be yours. Life will be better because you will be happier that you can be yourself and you will attract people that love being around you and you them. It will be easier because now you are not forcing yourself to do things that you really don’t want be doing but things that you look forward to doing. Finally it will be more fun because you will be playing daily. Playing meaning enjoying and exploring stuff you are passionate about not trudging through work.
I always get that follow-up, “but what about…?” Add what ever you perceive as the obstacle (my job, my family, my time, a death) and I have heard it all. Here is the key, it is not you will never have anything bad happen to you, it is not that you will never be tired, it is not that you will be perfect and everyone will love you. No, the point is when you are authentic and living your best life, being the best YOU, then you are able to have the right attitude that will help create strengths, challenges, and learning opportunities out of life’s obstacles. You will attract the good around you. People often think that successful people are just more lucky. The truth is they create their luck by consistently working towards their goals and aligning their values to who they are as a person…but more on that later.
What story are you telling yourself for not reaching your goals, for not being true to yourself, for not being as successful as you want to be? What ever it is, know that it is only an excuse. I know that may seem harsh but it is the truth. Let me prove it to you.
Write down a goal that you haven’t achieved yet but have been trying to for some time. Now write down all the reasons you haven’t been able to achieve it. Go for it do it now, I’ll wait…
Now that you have done that read all you reasons. Notice anything? What you should notice is how most if not all reasons are excuses. I am not saying it won’t be difficult and you may need to sacrifice some things to get it but at the end of the day how important is it for you to achieve this. Is it congruent to who the Best YOU is?
On the second part of this article we are going to explore how to find your true self and the practical steps you need to take to get there daily. Remember that in order to live a life that is better, easier, and more fun you must be true to yourself. (Stay tuned…)
I am writing this post on a plane coming back from California after speaking to 70+ fitness trainers from all around the world. I was asked to share the stage and present with some of the industries great contributors like Sam Bakhtiar, Rocco Castellano, John Spencer Ellis, Curtis Mock, Pat Rigsby, Dax Moy, and Greg Justice to name a few. I was truly honored to share the stage with these
See how it went below…
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Each one of these men are so different yet were able to contribute positively to the fitness industry and as a result it has helped trainers across the world serve their clients better. This leads me to…
To understand the Rudolph effect we need to go to the story about Rudolph the red nose reindeer (no I am not kidding). I know you know the story but I’ll give a quick recap:
In the North Pole all the reindeer were gearing up to deliver presents on Christmas. But one reindeer was hiding because all the other reindeer kept making fun of him because he looked different. He had a great big shiny red nose. His name was Rudolph. So Santa loads up the sleigh opens the barn doors and notices he can’t see outside because of the blizzard. Santa didn’t know what to do but he knew he had to do something because he needed to deliver the presents to all the kids in the world. He paced back and forth, back and forth. He stopped when he noticed a corner of the barn brightly lit. He walked over and found Rudolph hiding. When Santa asked Rudolph why he was hiding he said it was because he was embarrassed because he didn’t fit in and the other reindeer were making fun of him. Santa was disappointed at the other reindeer. Then it hit him and he jumped up and down and said, “Rudolph I need you to help me save Christmas!“ Rudolph was confused by Santa’s statement but answered yes. Santa explained to Rudolph that he would lead the sleigh with his brilliant shiny red nose so Santa knew where he was going. Christmas was saved…ho, ho, ho. [sorry got a little carried away, LOL.]
Sometimes your perceived weaknesses may be your greatest asset in the right situation. Don’t try to be like other people. Don’t hide your differences embrace them. Make your differences your strengths. Dax Moy the UK’s highest paid trainer said something truly profound to all the trainers at the conference. He said, “if you are living and operating congruent with your true self, serving others, and sharing your gifts, you will achieve greatness.“
If you have ever felt different and self conscious that you have a “great big shiny red nose” like Rudolph take comfort in knowing that it could be your greatest strength. Dig in deep today and focus on being your true self.
I wish you great success and I am eager to meet you the true you.
I am blessed.
I am blessed because early on in my life I knew what my passion was. I knew that I loved fitness and I loved helping to heal people. From the time I graduated high school I was on a mission to learn and fine tune how I would achieve my ultimate mission. This process sometimes feels never ending but I am always tweaking it to make sure that I can live my life to the fullest and help as many people as possible.
Today we celebrate Martin Luther King Jr. Day because he had a dream and he followed it. Martin Luther King Jr.’s dream was life altering to all man kind. To quote Gandhi, “Become the change you wish to see in this world.“ That is exactly what Dr. King did.
Your dreams need not be cataclysmic or earth shattering. They need not be something controversial or political. Your dream has to be real! If you do not make it real, if you do not make it something worth doing, then you will have wasted your life. I know that those may seem like harsh words but why are you in this world? Why are you occupying space in this world if you are not going to contribute your best to it?
I am tired of people settling. One of the places people settle most is becoming the best they can be. That is unacceptable, we all have a duty to ourselves and to every other person to give it our all. We may not always have a choice in what we do be we always have a choice with the attitude in which we do it. My dad always told me that, “no matter what you do, do it to the best of your ability and make the best out of it.” I am not perfect and even though I fall short of perfection my intention and action is to get back up and do better each and every time. That is not easy.
I remember growing up that my dad would tell me to take out the trash or mow the lawn or go to work with him in construction. I had a sour face and attitude. I remember asking him if that is what he wanted me to do for a living. He would reply, “If that is what you wish to do be the best and do your best at it. The most important thing is not what you do but how you do it.”
This was a lesson I have never forgotten, “It is not what you do but how you do it that matters most.“
I believe that Martin Luther King Jr not only got the what he did but the how he did right. When you can combine your life’s ultimate calling and combine that with the right attitude you can do incredible things.
If the answer is no, then please do yourself, your family, and all of humanity a favor, find out how to do it and start today. I don’t if you have ever heard the quote, “The world’s richest place is the cemetery.”
Because how many million dollar ideas have people taken to the grave because they didn’t take action. How many amazing novels, life altering inventions, business ideas, leaders have died with their gift kept to themselves because they didn’t live their true purpose. Don’t be next. You don’t have to be the next Martin Luther King Jr, you don’t have to be the next Steve Jobs, or the next Gandhi, all you have to be is the best and truest you.
Be well and honor Dr. King today by living out your life’s true purpose.
PS – I have a Dream (too)… My dream is to help 1 million people live happier, healthier lives through fitness, nutrition, and education by 2020.
[Thank you for helping me live my dream. Every time you read something I wrote and share it and act upon it you help me get close to my dream. I hope that I am helping you get closer to yours.]
This post should have been called “Things, Not What They Seem” but I didn’t think it sounded as cool. I am sure that you are wondering what the 3 M’s have to do with each other. Actually there is a funny story to explain it. We will call it…
The Western Exploration Adventures
After college my good friend Johann and I decided to go run the national parks throughout the US. We would be living out of the car and camping for 3 months.
1. No shaving or cutting our hair
2. We must run at least 1x day
3. Have fun
It truly was a life changing experience. This story takes place about 2 months into our trip in the Prairie Creek Campground in the Redwood National Forest in California. We had been running everyday, usually 2x’s a day. Needless to say were in decent shape.
I remember having a great 10 mile run in the morning running through the trails surrounded by majestic mountains, towering trees, and blue skies. This was such a humbling experience running through such grander that makes you feel so miniscule (i.e. midget;-). There is something about running through nature and pushing your body to an uncomfortable state that really heightens your awareness of what it means to be truly alive.
After our run we made our food and relaxed for the day hiking, reading, writing and talking to the other people in the campground. By 5PM it was time for our second run an easy 3 mile run. We ran once again through the trails soaking it all in. When we returned we went and showered in the creek. There we saw a few elk drinking water by creek. By the time we finished bathing and setting up camp we notice the campground was crawling with elk. They were just congregating and looked as if they were just socializing.
By 9:00 PM we decided to call it a night and went to bed. This is when things got weird. No, not because to grown men were sleeping in a tent together but because we were awaken by a flute, tiru-li-lu-li, tiru-li-lu-li. A sweet melody that soared through the air, filled my eardrums like water in a bucket. At first it was lovely and we thought wow some kid is practicing his flute. But by midnight we were ready to strangle that kid…We kept saying to each other, what parent would let their kid play an instrument so late at night? By midnight that melody was now like nails scratching a chalkboard, piercing through my eardrums. Don’t these people have any manners? Some of us are trying to sleep.
Eventually we fell asleep and at 7AM we were up for our morning run. Upon returning we see the park ranger and decided to be report the “Midnight Flutist”. After we explained our concern she could no longer hold back her laughter. Right there in front of us she bent over laughing as if someone punched her in the stomach (which crossed my mind when she laughed). We didn’t understand what was so funny until…
She explained that the infamous antagonist the “Midnight Flutist” was in fact our visiting elk. You see it was September (other wise known as mating season for elk). That sweet melody was their mating call destined to serenade their soon to be partner.
I hope you enjoyed one of the many stories and experiences Johann and I had during our Western Exploration Adventure.
What did you think about the “Midnight Flutist”? Leave a comment below.
1. Explore and see this world. This life changing trip really changed my perspective of people and the world.
2. You can only share with others not by yourself. Don’t be an island embrace and cultivate life enhancing relationships.
3. Don’t jump to conclusions about “Midnight Flutist” (It could be a bunch of elk trying to get their groove on).
4. Fitness and health is a big part vitality
5. Find your passion (One of mine is running) and explore how you can immerse yourself in it.
PPS – Once again leave a comment below and let me know what you think about the “Midnight Flutist”.