Category Archives for Motivation

Remember Us

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Remember the fallen soldiers, remember their family, and enjoy the freedom they helped create for you.

R.I.P. – Paul Michael Felsberg: You were a true friend, a leader, a hero, and I miss you greatly. Christmas Eve is not the same without you (A lot more left overs, lol). I love you man.

If you know a fallen hero please honor them here and letting others know what they did for you and our country. Leave their legacy below in the comments section.

Cheers,

AC

 

Monday Motivation-The Power of Words

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I don’t really think I need to say anything but Wow! How important is it to truly comprehend the power of words. You can literally change the world. Embrace the power of words and use it to create that world you have always dreamed of today.
Cheers,
AC

Motivation Monday – Don’t be afraid to fail

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Thomas Edison created the light bulb. He made 10,000 different lightbulbs before he found the one that worked. When asked about his failures he stated, “I didn’t fail, I just found 10,000 ways not to make a light bulb.”

Perspective.

What is your perspective and how will you “fail” today?

Cheers,

Armando

Beating Your Inner Demons!

The other day I posted a workout on Facebook that I struggled with. It was simple, 300 push-ups and 300 Jumping Jacks. After about 100 push-ups I wanted to give up.

I thought…

Who is going to know?

Is it really that important to finish?

Anyways that same night I got a message from a friend on Facebook. It perfectly illustrated how to think and overcome these inner demons or funks that we are all susceptible to.

Hey man, your post touched on something my wife and I talked about today. I’ve been in a funk the past week and, no surprise, my weight loss suffered because of it. That only served to enhance my funk. Today I discussed it with my wife, saying, “I feel like I’m a slave to these funks. They always happen, no matter how positive I feel going into battle with my weight. And they pretty much always derail me.” 

We realized that we keep waiting for this magic spell to be cast where we stay motivated every day and we’re able to put in the work we need to in order to reach our goals. That just isn’t true. Funks are part of the process and we have to accept them.

There will be days, no matter how far we’ve gone, that we’ll wake up not wanting to do a damn thing and wanting to eat everything in sight. Accept that these days are part of the process, trust the process and move on. Push through the funks and you’ll eventually make it through to the other side. And you’ll most likely be even more motivates to continue because you’ve jumped over such a huge personal hurdle.

We’re implementing this mindset, getting our workouts in, watching what we eat and it’s already gone a long way to help with the funk because we’re not afraid of it. We just accept that it’ll happen, that it’ll most likely happen again and that we just need to keep moving forward.

So what was the difference between 100 and 300 push-ups for me?

Mentally when I overcame my minds weakness and achieved my goal I felt so empowered and unstoppable. That made all the difference in the world for my confidence and the way I look at life. If life puts up a wall in front of me, perhaps I can find a way around it but how about just kicking it down. It doesn’t have to be pretty “Just Do It.”

How Do You Battle Your Inner Demons? Leave a Comment Below…

Cheers,

AC

How to have an amazing marriage

Recently I was the best man at my brother’s wedding. I had never been a best man before and this being such an amazing honor and a very important day I didn’t want to screw it up. As you know the best man gives the final toast to the bride and groom and being somewhat of a perfectionist I didn’t want to be remembered as that guy that gave a horrible speech at his brother’s wedding.

Knowing this, I like most, work more efficiently under pressure and deadline. So as you can imagine after his wedding on my way to the reception I asked my wife to drive and I started writing (talk about a deadline). What I wanted to do was really make it meaningful so I sprinkled a few jokes, told a few stories, but ended with this. The top 3 things for a successful marriage and that is what I want to share with you today.

Top 3 Things For A Successful Marriage

1.) Don’t listen to the way most people describe marriage.

I have a huge problem when people refer to marriage as a prison sentence, the ball and chain, end of your life…etc. I think marriage is one of the most amazing things, ever! Just like anything in life you get what you put into it. If you don’t put in much don’t expect much. That being said marriage is a balance. If both are not committed to making it the best thing ever then it won’t be. Mindset is crucial and for my brother and his beautiful wife I wanted to make sure they understood that. Marriage is not easy but the greatest investment you can make.

 

2.) Communication is an absolute must.

Here is a biggie. First of all how do you know that this is the right person for you? How do you know what to say or do? How do you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling? Communication, communication, communication!

{Pre-Marriage} You don’t need to live with people to know about them. You need to talk, ask questions, and know what you are looking for. If you don’t know what you want how do you when you found it.

{Marriage} Knowing your spouse is of utmost importance. If you are not speaking on a daily basis focused on each other without other distractions (i.e. kids, tv, computer, phone…) you are going to miss something. If you miss something one day it isn’t a big deal but these are all habits you are creating and 1 day turns into 2, 2 into 3… until you are 10 years later and you have no idea who your spouse is.

 

3.) Ask if this is a listening problem or a fixing problem.

[*NOTE: this one is for the guys] Here is a phenomenon that to men that will not make sense but you must accept (women you know what I am talking about). When a women has a problem, SHUT-UP and LISTEN. Don’t do anything else, if you do I guarantee you will screw it up. You see it is in our DNA as men to fix things and when your wife has a problem, you proudly polish your shining armor, get on your white horse, and ride to the rescue to save your damsel in distress.

CAUTION this exactly what you don’t want to do!

When a women is vocalizing a problem usually they are trying to vent. At that moment they don’t want your help, just your ears. Women will understand this men want to go and start fixing even before she is done explaining. Again if you try and understand this, DON’T,  just accept it. Fortunately my wife and I came up with an agreement (Seriously). When she starts telling me a problem, I ask, “Is this a listening problem or a fixing problem?”

This one question has made such a difference in the way we communicate and understand each other.

I know these steps will help your marriage as it has ours and other couples we know. Below I have a bonus.

BONUS

Say I love you in the way your spouse needs to hear it. (Refer to the The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts)

This is very important. The book is amazing and I look forward to doing a book review on it but here is the main point of the book. There are 5 love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch). Often we express our love to our spouse using our love language. If your spouses love language is different than yours she will not receive it as you intended it.

Key: Express your love using your spouses love language not your own. (It goes more in-depth in the book).

 

Let me know what you think. Has this helped in your marriage?

Do you have any advise for the brand new couple? Share your thoughts on the comments section.

 

 

One Day At A Time

I was reading my morning meditation and it talked about “One day at a time.” The slogan for the alcoholics fighting through their addiction.

It means don’t think about being sober forever, don’t think about one year away, don’t think about one week down the road just focus on today. Focus on being sober for today, one day at a time.

I felt it was such a great approach to succeeding in any area in our life.

“Being successful does not happen in one day but a compilation of consistent successful days to get us there.”

I often get asked about weight loss. Most people want to lose 10-30 lbs. The problem is that they think it happens over night. As the saying goes, “What comes fast, leaves fast.”

Here is what typically happens, someone decides they want to lose 25 lbs. They start exercising hard make a few changes on their food and they start losing some weight maybe 3 lbs in the first week. Maybe a few pounds the following week and then they plateau. Now they get a little stressed, they figure they have to work harder and nothing happens. Now they are really frustrated and they start pigging out on food and before you know it they are back where they started.

Take this approach instead…

Losing weight can seem pretty daunting at times. So lets make a mental shift and instead of expecting insane amounts of weight to come off by tomorrow lets focus on losing a 1/2 lbs per week. 1/2 lbs is not very much but as stated above “Being successful does not happen in one day but a compilation of consistent successful days to get us there.” If we look at one year of losing 1/2 lbs per week, you end up losing 26 lbs with little to no effort!

Something to consider.

Ask yourself…
– How important is this goal?
– Why is this goal so important?
– How will I feel when I hit this goal?
– How will I feel if don’t hit this goal?

By asking yourself these questions above you will tap into the key components that will help you execute these goals.

Have an amazing day.

Cheers,
AC