I was in mass on December 31, 2008 and the priest gave an interesting homily. To paraphrase he said, ” I don’t know much about cars but I do know that if the car has engine problems, painting it is not going to make the car run any better…”
Isn’t that what most us do with New Year’s Resolutions? We focus on the outside, the paint job, the stuff that looks good but not the deep stuff, the engine, what really makes us function. I am not saying that we have to go into the mountains and meditate until we can move stuff with our minds (a pretty cool thing to do, though). What I am saying is that if you want personal fulfilling success foe 2009 you must do 3 things.
3 Things To Do For A Successful & Fulfilling 2009
First you must understand what you want. You must make sure it is really what you want not what society imposes on you. Example is weight loss, in theory it is a good thing to do, it seems everyone around you wants to lose weight, but if it really doesn’t do it for you the chances of you succeeding are slim to none. Make sure it is what you want.
Second comes the plan. Now that you know what you want now you have to devise a plan on how to get it, by when, being as specific as possible. To go back to the weight loss example how many people say every year, “I want to lose weight,” as the new year’s resolution? And how many of those people do the same thing each year? Remember the definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Let’s be sane this year.
Finally you must execute! Without this step you have wasted your time. To resolve to do something is a strong conviction manifested in an action. So let 2009 be the year of action don’t fall into the trap of “paralysis by analysis.”
May 2009 bring much success and even more blessings. Happy New Year!!!
My wife and I had been practicing natural family planning for about 14 months tracking my wife’s temperature and recording her cycle. When we decided to have our first child we knew when she was the most fertile, so we gave it a go. I can recall after when we lay there holding each other she said to me, “You know I am going to be pregnant.” Now my initial response was, “I know” but that did not really sink in yet, more on that later.
When my wife asked me to go get the home pregnancy test. At first I was shocked because there was a moment of amnesia, “For what”, I said. She gave me the look and I quickly remembered. How hard could it be?
For those who have never have had the pleasure of walking into a CVS at 10 PM and wander through the “pregnancy” aisle let me share my experience with you.
First your wife will usually get the urge to ask you late in the evening. That is better than rush hour here in Miami but if you are a morning person 10 PM is usually your bed time. I will admit though, when your wife asks you to get a pregnancy test even if you are sleepy, I guarantee that you will wake up, quickly! I digress, so I make it to the CVS, the automatic doors open courteously for me and I enter. I make my way down one aisle then another until I find “THE” aisle. I pick up the pregnancy test I look at it, read it then look up again and notice there lots more tests. What do I do? read one then the other, some have the words yes and no others have bars, others dots, some have multi packs. Do I need more than one? Is there a pregnant lady around maybe she would know? Ahhhhh! I finally decide like a true man. I narrow it down to three choices and start the deciding process invented probably by some Greek philosopher, you guessed it, Eeny-meeny-meiny-mo…
I finally get the single E.P.T test with the bars. Why? Several reasons, first I wanted one that was going to be right and free of any errors so the name says it all E.P.T. (Error Proof Test). Bars vs. words, well words seem so much more high tech and as a result I figured the chances are higher for something to go wrong, so I chose bars. Finally I chose the single pack because it was cheaper than the multi-pack and being that I had an error proof test my wife would only have to take the test once.
I rushed home and with a grin from ear to ear I handed her the Error Proof Test. She said thanks, set it down, and went to the room. My jaw bounced as it hit the floor.” What are your doing?” I asked. She replied she would do it tomorrow. To quote Tim Allen in the show Home Improvement, “Arrrh?”. She turned around and laughed. That was her attempt at a joke (funny to her not so much for me).
She went to the bathroom to take the test. I waited, then decided to ocupy myself cooking. When she came out I had 2 pans going with some types of food I can’t remember. She come out, I look at her and she says, “It says I need to wait 3 minutes.” I keep cooking not even looking up to contain my anxiousness. I tell her to let me know when it is ready. 3 minutes later she returns and asks, “How does it feel to be a Daddy?”
When she said that I felt like a little boy having met Santa for the first time. I did not know what to do first because there were so many emotions going on. I dropped everything and ran around the house screaming and jumping, hugging her, and kissing her.
To Be Continued…